It’s time to make a New Year’s resolution. We’re at it again. Every year, we make new New Year’s resolutions. We sometimes recycle goals we haven’t met before, but the majority of the time we set new goals for ourselves. So, what are your new year’s resolutions for the year 2022? Is it anything you’d like to have before the end of the year? Is it something that you want to own before the year ends? Or is it something personal, something about personal growth? No matter what kind of resolution that is, there is one thing we all want and that is to be able to achieve them all. But did you know that there could be wrong things you could be doing with your New Year’s Resolution? So hold on tight because we’re about to call these things out.
What Are The Wrong Things You Are Doing For Your New Year’s Resolution 2022?
Feeling Pressured To Get Everything Done In A Year
Every year we all plan out our new year’s resolutions. You’re probably guilty that you weren’t able to achieve them all. But you don’t have to feel pressured about that. Did you know that, according to a study, only 19% of people keep their resolutions until the end of the year? Yes! It means it’s totally normal to not really achieve all of your resolutions in one year. You don’t have to feel pressured by others.
Making Everything Your New Year’s Resolution
Yes, it’s all better if at the end of the year we’ve achieved a lot of things, but most of the time it can be too overwhelming if we have a lot of things on hand. In reality, expecting a lot of changes in one year is unrealistic. And that’s where the problem mostly comes from. We list and list and list, but we tend to forget to think about if what we listed is still realistically achievable or not. We have to keep in mind that we have to set realistic and achievable goals.
“I’m doing it for them… for my friends… for my family.”
If this is your line for your New Year’s Resolution, you better rethink what you are doing. There’s nothing wrong with having resolutions for other people, but if you’re only doing this to meet their expectations and you know that deep inside you that you’re not really happy with what you’re doing, then this is going to be your main problem. No matter how much you’d like to achieve your resolutions for other people, it will be very hard for you to do so. Better yet, make sure that your New Year’s Resolutions 2022 are all for you. (Yes, you can be selfish from time to time.)
Beating Yourself Up For Not Achieving It
If you find yourself not able to achieve the new year’s resolution you’ve set, accept the failure and forgive yourself. Do not beat yourself up for failing to meet them. As we’ve said before, it is totally normal to not achieve everything at once. Maybe if this happens to you, those resolutions you weren’t able to achieve this year, you can still use them as your resolution for the next coming years. Just always remember to accept failure and forgive yourself.
Making New Year’s Resolutions A Legal Obligation
Lastly, enjoy!!! Avoid thinking that resolutions are a legal obligation. Something that must be done on a yearly basis. If that’s your case already, you need to take a breather. Remind yourself that New Year’s Resolutions are supposed to be something that’ll make you happier as you achieve them. This should not be taken as a task or requirement like in work.
Hopefully, this year we will learn how to have a healthy and balanced New Year’s Resolution. These resolutions are supposed to make us feel better, improved, and happier, but they can sometimes have a negative impact on our lives. That’s why it is important for us to know what the wrong things we’ve been doing are; it’ll make us more aware of ourselves. So what are you doing now? Go revamp your new year’s resolution for this year 2022; go and make healthy and mindful resolutions.
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